Against women. Against Children. Against men.
It is all unacceptable.
A common undertone to many of the books I write is abuse and/or violence. There is a beauty, if you will, to a person’s resurrection. When someone comes through the horrors to the other side, they come out a different person.
The struggle that they go through, the realizations that they are, indeed, worthy of love, that they are important, that they are worth protecting and most importantly, that they are not at fault is beyond hard. And as the coal deep in the earth survives the heat, the pressure and the time it takes to become a new and exquisitely beautiful new gem, so too does the person struggling go through their own form of heat, pressure and time to come out the other side as a new gem of their own.
They are not a victim. They are a survivor.
I share my own emotion in each of these stories, regardless of whether the events are based on real events, or complete fiction, the emotions I pour into these pages is real. I feel the pain the heroine feels when she is struggling. I sob with them, get angry and grieve with them as they come through and find their new normal.
It is never my intention to glorify abuse or violence, nor to downplay the affects that abuse and/or violence has on each of us, I do however want to portray strong characters who find a way through, who are strong enough to show us that it is possible to live beyond the abuse.
1 in 4, 1 in 6, 1 in 2, it doesn’t matter. Those numbers are exponentially too high. Besides, I’m quite sure that if everyone truly reported their abusers, the numbers would be beyond heartbreaking.
Over the next few months, I’ll be talking a lot more about different types of abuse, domestic violence and sexual assault, as the topics relate directly to my current series.
I know that reading about these topics can trigger certain people, for that, I apologize. I will attempt to include a warning.
It is my hope that we can join together to help each other. We can help to educate ourselves and those around us, we can share information and we can be mindful and speak up.
Please take a moment and read this article about internet safety. The article is geared toward women, specifically, but I think many of the topics and hints are useful for everyone.
Abuse is abuse, even if it is a woman hitting a man, or a girl hitting a boy. Sadly, I think we forget about that and laugh it off.
I love you all dearly. If you, or someone you love is being abused, please seek help.
For anonymous, confidential help, 24/7, please call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at
1-800-799-7233 (SAFE) or 1-800-787-3224 (TTY).
Please check out some of the links below for more information.